The Lifted Lady

Posted by Keisha Mitchell On Sept - 14 - 2009

It is amazing to me how several of the most coveted positions (in the church and in the secular world) appear, from the outside view, to carry great grandeur and few tribulations. However, this is a great misconception. Many desire to carry the titles of honor, but they truly do not understand the reality of the burden that comes with these positions.

Removing The Clutter

Posted by Paulette Harper On Sept - 14 - 2009

Do you have a closet that no one is allowed to open? I wonder why not. Is it full of junk and you keep telling yourself you are going to use one day? Just like cleaning out the closet, at times we need to do a spiritual and emotional cleaning.

Don't Stop The Love

Posted by Tanya White On Sept - 14 - 2009

Have you noticed that now that Valentine’s Day is history you have made being in and demonstrating love a mystery? Your unexpected kisses have been kicked to the curve. The peace has passed away. Your loving words of encouragement and compassion have quickly crept away like a thief in the night.

God Has The Final Say

Posted by Tonya Blount June - 1 - 2009

After years of emotional, physical, and verbal abuse, I finally ended my marriage. My exodus wasn’t planned. After a vicious beating that led to my arrest (at my former husband insistence), I prayed to God and heard an audible voice that asked, “Are you ready to Leave the Wilderness?” Several days later, I packed up my children and left. I had no plan and nowhere to go. We were immediately homeless...

Flawless Every Time

Posted by Elizabeth Hamilton On Sept - 14 - 2009

Every stiletto has her secrets to her own personal style. These coveted secrets cannot be gleaned from the glossy magazines at the checkout stands in the grocery store or the latest best-selling guide to style.

Managing The Stress In Our Temples

Posted by Patricia Bridewell On Sept - 14 - 2009

Have you ever had those days when you just wanted to throw your hands in the air and give up? I know the feeling because I have rough days, too. The burden of stress falls on all of us and although it can be challenging, it is something we must all face. I would like to share some faith-based information and stress management techniques that I hope will help you cope with the stress in your lives.

...Finding self-worth is sometimes the hardest thing for women to do. We wait for others to validate us, instead of knowing it's okay to validate ourselves....

This month, in Faith Filled Stilettos, we wanted to do something different and introduce YOU as our featured cover person for this issue. You may be asking, "How does that work?" Simple. We've come up with a few questions we'd like for you to answer honestly and share with other women why self-love is so important. Our society is plagued with so much hurt and pain that it may be hard to receive the love God has for us, but that doesn't mean it isn't there.

It's time for women to fight for the love they deserve and it starts with first loving yourself!

Start your interview now!

Also In This Issue (Click links to go to article):

A Note From The Editor: Whose Loving You?

Let's Talk About It: "No More Babies?"

The Lifted Lady

Flawless Every Time...

Managing The Stress In Our Temples

After The Music Stops, Mali Music

Removing The Clutter

A Night To Remember

A Writer's Legacy

Don't Stop The Love

Black Book Clubs Rock Awards

"I love you..."

How do you feel when these three words are spoken to you by your spouse, your children, your friends, or a stranger? What about when the person whose hurt you the most proclaims their undying love for you all within the same breath? Do you get a warm tingling feeling or does contempt and hate course through your veins?

Growing up, I found love to be nothing more than a catch phrase people said out of habit. For me, it held no more weight than someone sneezing and the automatic response being, "God bless you." I felt I drifted through life with a disadvantage, because if I didn't know love then how could I have loved myself? It took a lot of self-reflection but I realized the reason why I never received love was because I simply didn't know.

As women, we are the ones helping others gain better position throughout life. We push, fight, cry, scream, and tear down barriers for our family and friends, but in the midst forget to fight for ourselves. How can we properly display love to those around us if we neglect to show love to ourselves?

So, I made this issue about YOU. I wanted you to take the time to reflect on those things that have shaped your thinking on love, what does it mean to you, and are you loving yourself as the bible clearly demonstrated in 1 Corinthians 13?

1 Corinthians 13 (The Message)

1 Corinthians 13
The Way of Love
1 If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don't love, I'm nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate. 2If I speak God's Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, "Jump," and it jumps, but I don't love, I'm nothing. 3-7If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don't love, I've gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I'm bankrupt without love.

Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.
Love doesn't strut,
Doesn't have a swelled head,
Doesn't force itself on others,
Isn't always "me first,"
Doesn't fly off the handle,
Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn't revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.
8-10Love never dies. Inspired speech will be over some day; praying in tongues will end; understanding will reach its limit. We know only a portion of the truth, and what we say about God is always incomplete. But when the Complete arrives, our incompletes will be canceled.

11When I was an infant at my mother's breast, I gurgled and cooed like any infant. When I grew up, I left those infant ways for good.

12We don't yet see things clearly. We're squinting in a fog, peering through a mist. But it won't be long before the weather clears and the sun shines bright! We'll see it all then, see it all as clearly as God sees us, knowing him directly just as he knows us!

13But for right now, until that completeness, we have three things to do to lead us toward that consummation: Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love.

At the end of this journey, when someone asks, "Whose loving you?" I want you to boldly say, "I am," and mean it.

Loving you because I am learning to love me,

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